One of my favorite books is Victor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning. He writes beautifully about the choices we make about our attitude:
When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms–to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way. –Victor Frankl
One of the most important things I try to teach my children is that attitude is determined by internal choices, not by external wealth or situations. We can decide how to respond to our life and find great joy or great sorrow.
Every day we find evidence to support our attitudes about life. If we think life is hard, then each failure adds proof to this belief. If we think that life is happy and joyful, each success again adds proof to our belief.
The amazing thing is, no matter what kind of circumstances you live in, your belief drives your happiness.
Recently I decided to help our children look for evidence of a happy life. I placed a large piece of paper on the wall and labeled it the “Victory Wall.” On this sheet of paper, each member of our family can write down their victories. They can be anything!
They can be simple victories like brushing your teeth.
They can be great victories like acing a test.
But they must be positive events that we all can celebrate.
The Victory Wall literally keeps joyful moments in our view. My family is reminded daily of their success and their joy.
I think the Victory Wall is here to stay.
What do you do to help your children see the joy in life?