Have you ever gone to bed at night and not been able to sleep because you were thinking about what happened that day and/or what was going to happen tomorrow? I know there have been nights in my life where it took a good hour or longer to fall asleep because of replaying the day in mind. I’ve also spent time awake worried about what tomorrow would bring. A routine can help at these times.
I’ve already written about my AM Routine and how it helps me get through my day. One of the key components of that routine is the set of declarations I use to put a positive mindset in my brain. I also have a PM Routine where I go through a set of five steps to help me wind down and not worry about what happened today or what’s going to happen tomorrow.
Each night I take out my journal and determine what I want to record. Sometimes it’s a situation that played out with one of the children. I can record successes I’ve experienced or release frustration. I record what I feel was relevant from the day which then removes that from my mind and allows me to not replay it over and over again.
My After Story
- Personal – a brief paragraph of who I want to be
- Financial – a summary of what I want to do in life from a financial standpoint as well as a statement about what I need money for
- Relationships – three paragraphs describing the relationship I have with God, Cheryl and my children
- Physical Strength/Health – how I picture my body and the way it works
- Success/Travel – what success looks like for me and some travel goals I have
- Spiritual – my connection with God and what kind of example I am in living what I know to be true
- House/Location – the kind of house I live in and where it’s located
- Mission – what my mission is in life and how I strive to find and live it
Reading these each night helps me to relax as I picture each one in my mind. I can see the progress I made during the current day and know that tomorrow will bring more progress.
In my religion, there is a person who is given authority to give a blessing that discusses your life. It is called a Patriarchal Blessing. I received mine when I was 18 years old. In it is a description of what I can expect out of life if I follow God’s plan. The blessing talks about talents I have as well as gifts I can receive. Reading the blessing helps me to align my spiritual self with my physical self and recognize where those two have interacted during the day.
I take anywhere between 15 minutes and an hour to read. I read all kinds of things. Right now, I’m reading “Make Today Count” by John C. Maxwell. I read various genres. Science fiction is definitely my favorite and currently am waiting for the next book in the “Dresden Files” by Jim Butcher, “The Stormlight Archive” by Brandon Sanderson and “Lightbringer” by Brent Weeks. Reading helps me to shift my focus away from the cares of the day and into a different world. This helps my mind to also change gears and allow it to be ready for sleep.
Grace’s PM Routine
At tuck-in time we have one more routine. If you’ve seen Monsters Inc., you will get this. I get to look at Grace just before turning off the light and say “You… Go… To… Sleep… “. It’s a fun way to get her to smile before dreaming of tomorrow.