“Where are you going Dad?” asks Grace. “To get my ears lowered” I answer. Of course, this gets a confused look from Grace every time. It’s my way to say that I’m going to get a haircut. Why is this important to me? Well… let’s take a look at a typical day for me:
- 5:30 AM – Get up and exercise
- 6:00 AM – Get ready for the day – AM Routine
- 6:30 AM – Breakfast
- 7:00 AM – Answer kids first questions of the day
- 7:30 AM – Start getting ready for work
- 8:00 AM – 5:00 PM work
- Answer kids questions
- Have lunch
- Answer more kids questions
- Run an errand
- Answer kids questions
- Do something for kids
- 5:00 PM – End work, help start dinner
- 6:00 PM – Dinner
- 6:30 PM – Clean up dinner with kids
- 7:00 PM – Help kids with evening activities
- 8:00 PM – Put kids to bed
- 8:30 PM – Put more kids to bed
- 9:00 PM – Relax (relatively speaking)
- 9:30 PM – Final kid to bed
- 9:45 PM – PM Routine and get to bed
See anything about this schedule that is crazy? Most days I end up with little time for me. So when I go to get a haircut, it’s a big deal! I go to Sports Clips to get a haircut and the reason why is the MVP treatment. The MVP includes the haircut, wash and scalp and jaw massage, hot towel treatment, and a back massage. This is like the commercial where the overloaded mom states “Calgon take me away!” I am totally relaxed and have gotten away to do something just for me.
Self-care is an important part of life. We have to take time to take care of ourselves. If not, we will begrudge the other parts of our life and not be able to put the energy into those other activities.
But getting a haircut isn’t the only self-care that I do. I have other things that I enjoy and try to find time to do. One of these is yard work.
When I’m doing yard work, my mind clears and I just focus on what I am doing. This relieves stress and allows me to also let go of emotions. This in turns allows me to have a better attitude with my children. One other benefit I’ve found is that with my mind clear, I can think of different solutions to problems.
I also participate in sports: soccer and golf being the main two. Physical exercise along with competition allows me to change my focus and take care of myself.
Of course, at the end of the day, I come back to my schedule. I love my schedule because I get to interact with my loved ones.
Upon arriving home from Sports Clips, I usually get asked “Dad, did you get a haircut?” My reply? “Nope, I got ’em all cut.”