Choosing Beautiful

beautiful door

I was so blessed to get away for the weekend and re-energize. My sister and I attended the Queen of the Kingdom while BJ took care of the children at home. I have a supportive spouse and am so grateful that we encourage each other in our need to continue learning and growing. While at […]

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Fear Gracefull-Parenting Autism Special-Needs

A few years ago I went through a season of fear. Fear can be overwhelming; it can take control of your life. It can occupy your every thought. My fear was for Levi who was not doing well. He wasn’t progressing. He made choices that isolated himself. He manipulated Cheryl and I. In fact, he […]

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Getting My Ears Lowered

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“Where are you going Dad?” asks Grace. “To get my ears lowered” I answer. Of course this gets a confused look from Grace every time. It’s my way to say that I’m going to get my hair cut. Why is this important to me? Well… let’s take a look at a typical day for me: […]

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Using Journals For Better Parenting

Journaling to be a better parent

I’ve talked about My AM Routine and My PM Routine that I have used over the past year to help me with my thoughts and staying positive. I want to discuss one more tool I’ve used that has helped me stay positive as a parent and not let the craziness bring me down. I have two journals that […]

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4 and 1

When you have special needs children it can be easy to focus on those children and lose sight of everything else. A few years ago I lost that focus and it was necessary that Cheryl and I worked together to get in sync. As Cheryl has mentioned in Helping Special Needs Children During Church we had issues […]

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Teaching Respect

My grandfather, Samuel Gilmore, was an amazing man. I can’t count the number of lessons I learned from. His family was central in his life. He even retired early so that he could spend more time with his wife who had serious health issues. Grandpa Sam was always supportive and giving and he is my […]

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How can I reason with my child?

About a week ago I got a normal request from my oldest. “Dad, I want to buy a video game.” The first question we always ask is, “What’s it rated?”. He answered that it wasn’t rated. “Uh-oh”, I thought here we go… Attitude when the discussion begins You see, when you have a child that […]

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My PM Routine

Have you ever gone to bed at night and not been able to sleep because you were thinking about what happened that day and/or what was going to happen tomorrow? I know there have been nights in my life where it took a good hour or longer to fall asleep because of replaying the day […]

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Little Voice Management

What are “little voices”? So what do I mean when I say Little Voice Management? Well, I’m talking about the thoughts that come into our minds. These thoughts can come from either internal (what I think about myself) or external (what others think about me) sources. These voices can be positive or negative. The trick […]

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